In an epiphanic sort of moment today, while I was on my way to work, I figured out the reason for man’s (as a gender) audacity, confidence, alpha-ness – or whatever else you call the lack of hesitation to go after the things he wants – with which he lives his life.
It’s the ability to whip his penis out and pee right there in front of a million passing vehicle while curious children, disgusted/embarrassed women and indifferent men watch.
Imagine the kind of freedom he lives with when he knows that, at least most of the time, no one’s going to be overcome with lust at the thought an exposed penis. When he realises that the whole world isn’t going to come to a standstill and ogle till their eyes dribble out if he stands by a wall and takes leak while he’s chatting away on phone or watching the arc pouring out of his crotch. It must be terribly liberating.
And that is the reason men will ogle women without realising, or many times caring, that it’s offensive. That it’s a personal violation when you stare at my chest or keep looking at my legs.
That is the reason men will go boldly and dare to touch a woman who hasn’t allowed him to do so. Or pass lewd comments at her as she passes by, even though there is the risk that she might turn out to be a scare like me and beat them up.
That is the reason they try and steal surreptitious glances at other men who pee by them – to feel better about their own sizes, even though it could be that they’ll end up feeling worse.
That is the reason they’ll run women down at work because of nothing else but that she’s a woman.
And that is the reason they’ll be unfaithful, they’ll be courageous when it comes to beating up other men who hit on their women, they’ll be demented when it comes to that promotion or laugh like mad at films like “There’s Something About Mary”….
All because they can unzip their pants and pee on the road.
(P.S. I am not talking about men who have a healthy sense of self esteem or those who are well-adjusted. I am talking about those you walk around with “On my way to Loser Land” sprinkled over them.)